One of my friends was telling me about a recently-married, mutual acquaintance who had just two criteria. As a single guy in my early twenties, I found his comment confusing. On the one hand, putting so much emphasis on appearance seemed really worldly. But it illustrates the confusion Christian guys are facing in how to evaluate the relative value of physical appearance when dating. While we cannot — for any reason — approve of objectifying women, the culture around us makes that challenging.
Is it possible for physical attraction to grow over time?
Christian Dating Not Physically Attracted
How important is physical attraction in a Christian relationship? How much value should you place on physical attraction in a marriage or a long term relationship? There is a Christian girl at his church that he really enjoys being around and who seems to like him too. Below is my response to him.
Should I Marry Without Romance and Attraction?
My answer is that they should absolutely break up, because clearly they do not yet have the spiritual maturity to be attracted to the things that God is attracted to 1 Samuel Until it is possible to commit to cherishing that person for a lifetime, breaking up is the best option. I don't say that to shame them, but I get the sense that as The Holy Spirit continues to conform us to Christ we will eventually see people as God does. That brings up another common dating question, continuing the theme from last week :. I say that because, in dating, physical attractiveness is often at or near the top of the list of what people are looking for.
Male handsomeness and female beauty are good gifts from God. Scripture is unashamed to speak of men who had attractive physical appearances Gen ; 1 Sam ; ; ; 2 Sam ; ; 1 Kings ; Ps ; Songs and of women who had beautiful faces and — get this—beautiful bodies Gen ; 14; ; ; 1 Sam ; 2 Sam ; ; ; 1 Kings ; Job ; Songs Yet, I am regularly asked if it is important for a Christian man or woman to be physically attracted to the person they are dating. Another answer suggests that while godly character should be the primary factor, physical attraction is important and should also be part of the equation. Unfortunately, while I agree more with the second of the two, neither of the typical answers to this question go deep enough to provide sufficiently biblical counsel.